My blog this month is dedicated to all women and victims of domestic violence. This is the final post of the domestic violence series.
I want to say Congratulations to anyone who has survived and over came an abusive relationship. It can be hard but it is possible. You are very fortunate that you have made it. So many others didn’t. You are a survivor of bad a situation. You are not the situation. It was a small piece of your life. Remember that life goes on. It may seem difficult but the hard part is over.
You are a survivor!
Here are some tips that will help you when you start over:
1. Seek counseling. Make an appointment with a licensed professional. I am a firm believer in talking to someone about life issues who is trained to listen to your concerns. Taking care of your mental health is equally as important as your physical health.
2. Forgive yourself- Remember it’s not your fault, you were in an abusive relationship. Love is respect and it doesn’t harm you physically. Don’t blame yourself. It’s ok to give yourself a time limit to grieve your hurt. However, don’t get stuck. Forgive yourself and move on. It’s not your fault.
3. Be patient with yourself. Don’t rush the healing process. Don’t rush into new a relationship. Take time to rebuild yourself, your self esteem, and your self worth.
4. Prepare for your future. Your future is bright. Focus on all the positives. Avoid the negative thinking. Be more aware and alert in your next relationship. Pay attention to any red flag.
5. Trust your intuition. I can’t stress this enough. Always remember the more you use your intuition the stronger it will be. Trust your gut instincts. It will never lead you in the wrong direction.
6. Educate your self. Knowledge is Power. Learn more about domestic abuse and the statistics. Utilize all the resources and services that are available. Their are so many different programs available to survivors in the community.
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or visit their website to chat online 24/7.
7. Change your thoughts. Remember you are what you think. Speak positivity in your life. Believe in yourself.
If you want to know what’s it’s like to survive hell and still come out brighter than the sun, just look into the eyes of a woman who has survived intense damage and refused to allow it to change her softness. ~Nikita Gill