The world is becoming a smaller place because of the internet. Instead of meeting our partners at work or through friends and family, many of us now meet them online. Whether it’s via social media or a dating website. Dating on the internet is looked down upon by some, but it is very common in today’s society.
According to eharmony.com, 20% of current, committed relationships begin online.
I live my truth so no one can use it against me. I don’t care what anyone says or what anyone thinks. I met my husband on line, and I love him dearly. It’s the best relationship, I have ever had. Everyone says you look happy, I must admit it’s not just a look, I am genuinely happy inside and out to have finally met my Soulmate.
Here is our story of our divine meeting
I was 3 months out of a breakup from a guy who left because of an argument, we will call him Devin. I met Devin at CIAA. It was convenient for him to leave because it was the holiday season. How lame! Devin didn’t call or text me for 3 entire months. Mind you this was during the holiday season;Thanksgiving, Christmas 2018, and New Years. The time when you are supposed to be with your loved ones. So once I got over the heart break, which I knew I was because I am resilient. I went into 2019 with an open mind, so I decided to try the internet dating again. I had nothing to loose. All to gain.
I have always admired how African and Caribbean men take care of their women and families. So one evening when I got off of work I was bored and was ready to start dating again. I strategically googled African and Caribbean dating sites. Yep!! I was specific in what I wanted.
So a site came up called Mingle 2, I will provide the link HERE. I had never heard of it before, it looked generic but I still gave it a try. Mostly out of boredom. After all, I have tried several dating sites such as Black People Meet, P.O.F. Plenty of Foolery (lol), and Tinder. I was swiping left, right, up and down with no luck.
So on Mingle 2 you can view people profile by the country they were in. I was all over Africa and the Caribbean Islands. I was in Tanzania, Kenya, South Africa, Ghana, Jamaica, and then I finally went to Nigeria. And you know Nigerian men are FINE. My husband is the finest man on the continent of Africa.
I didn’t put the best picture up, because I was apprehensive. Then, I came across this profile, he was cute, but you know guys take awkward pictures. He was not photogenic. So I just read his profile and left. I didn’t leave a message. Thank God Mingle 2 let him know I viewed his profile( I need to email Mingle 2 with our story). I received a nice message from him a day later and we exchanged pleasantries. He had to google where I was from because he never heard of my state before. He couldn’t believe an American stopped by.
His profile stated he wanted to marry, my profile said just dating. I really wasn’t taking the internet thing serious because of the distance. Because of Nigeria reputation of scamming and things we both, moved fast to prove who we were. I face timed him, and he was even more FINE on face time. I said, THANK YOU LORD, there is a God that sit high and looked low.
Lol, not only was he fine, his African accent was so sexy and he speaks another language so I found that attractive as well. But not only does he look great, he has a great heart, God fearing, and is a genuine man. He always wants what’s best for me. He’s perfect in my eyes.
Mind you I am the first American, he has talked to other than what he has heard and seen on television. So he had reservations. Just like I did. None of the stereotypes he thought about American women were true. He feel in love with my personality and my heart. He always talks about how jovial and friendly I am. We can talk for hours on the phone, day in and out and we still have things to talk about.
I always knew African men moved fast, because they know what they want. When I was younger it scared me, as a mature woman I can understand why. It doesn’t take an African man years to decide if they want to marry you. My husband always told me he date to marry, he doesn’t believe in waisting time. I love him and respect him more for that. Nothing like a man who knows what he want!
When we first met, he asked if I was moving to Africa. I said sure “Why Not!” On day 3, he said you are going to be wife, I said ok. He has been consistently the same since we met. I met him in January, he proposed in February and we married in October.
Side note: Devin called back on super bowl night 2019. He has called and begged me back. He really thought I was a Walmart clearance item, where he could put me on the shelf and come back. I think not! Sorry I am engaged and about to be married to the love of my life. He’s looking as lame as his actions, as well as a few others.
Always remember treat people how you would want your mother, sister, daughter, aunt, or cousin to be treated.
I thank God everyday for blessing me with such a wonderful husband. There are a million people in the world and you choose me. I love you Uchenna.